At a certain moment in my life I understood that I can
no longer take myself the way that I am. I smoked cigarettes, I drank alcohol,
and I led quite a low-quality lifestyle in general. No, no, don't get me wrong,
I wasn't a hopeless human being or anything like that. I had a place to study,
a family and a place to live. I just saw no progress in life and I had no final
destination. My life had little meaning, which caused me to experience day
after day that vicious circle from which I could not see any light.
Self-confidence was almost invisible, and depression was slowly crawling onto
me.
Despite having that prolonged dark moment in my life,
from time to time I would experience a strong desire to change. I knew that
there was something in life that I would love to do, I knew that I could do it,
but I just felt like it was too far away from me to even bother trying.
Nevertheless, one day I woke up with a feeling that
this was the end. I knew that my life was about to change. I had a thousand
ideas rushing through my mind of how to become happy, successful, determined,
inspired, etc. There was just one problem - lack of self-confidence. In fact,
that was the reason that I was too scared to begin my transformation in first
place. This time, however, fear and anger outgrew me, and I knew that I needed
to raise my self-confidence, for real.
I won't bore you with everything that didn't work out
for me in the process of raising my self-confidence, but I will tell you about
the things that did. The things that I will describe have changed me to the
core. Today I no longer feel that I lack something, or that I am not strong
enough. I feel that I can succeed in many of the things that I choose to, and
the things that I fail at (if I do), I just use them as a valuable lesson to
push even harder next time. As the saying goes, everything that doesn't kill us,
makes us stronger.
Self-confidence approach 1 - watch and imitate
One cause for the lack of self-confidence in us comes
from the fact that we don't have enough of confident people around us. If you
are reading this post, then you are probably like me - you didn't grow up
self-confident.
One of the most important habits that you can pick up
on the way to becoming self-confident, is the habit of imitating very confident
people. In this case I mean imitating people in real life, the ones that you
know, but also random people on the street, people you hear or read about on the
news, or whoever else that may be. And I don't meant the imitation of only one
trait of their character, such as the way they publicly speak, or the way they
talk about money, but all traits! You must learn to see the best in people, and
to soak up all of the best qualities. Look at this as a process of rebuilding
your mind, but from the best parts that you can find.
When I began to imitate self-confident people, I
looked at the way they talked to others, the way they handled issues, acted at
work, drove their cars, and even the way they walked. Trust me, minor things,
such as a confident walk and a straight posture can drastically change your way
of thinking.
Remember, imitation is the first step to becoming
self-confident. The fact that we lack it in first place, means that we lack
that type of mentality. Copying it off of someone else is key.
Self-confidence approach 2 - physical exercise
The ones out there thinking that physical exercise can
be avoided, don't be mislead! To become self-confident, you absolutely must
have physical exercise, and the more, the better.
Not only physical exercise reduces the amount of
stress in us, it increases the amount of testosterone and therefore
self-confidence. So guys, you especially, don't take this for granted. The bottom
line is that doing sports is healthy and sexy.
Self-confidence approach 3 - educate yourself
Stop wasting time on things that take you further away
from your dreams. If you want to become self-confident, you should be doing
things that make you more aware and knowledgeable. The more useful content that
you consume, the more chances there are that you will make use of it.
Let me tell you this, when I began my search for
self-confidence, I watched so many motivational videos, listened to so many
audiobooks, and read so many posts on the internet (such as the one you are
reading now, haha) about the subject, that I began to feel that being
self-confident is the only path to success. That idea had its roots grow into
me.
Therefore, reduce to the bare minimum useless input,
such as from social media, and maximise input that makes you stronger and
wiser.
Self-confidence approach 4 - have no fear
The last thing that I want to tell you is - have no
fear. Don't be afraid to change life. Don't be like I was, don't think that it
is "too late". I was extremely blinded with limiting beliefs. How can
a 23-year old guy think that it's too late? I now think that it was silly, to
say the least.
Life is like a pendulum that will never stop swinging
you around. You will always have your ups and down, and as long as you are
alive, there is nothing you can do about it. The only thing that you can do, is
to become fearless, and to learn from your mistakes. No successful person is
without fears, and no successful person doesn't make mistakes. They all do. The
only difference between them and the people lacking self-confidence, is that
they never give up. Adversity is just a part of life, and the quicker we
understand that and accept that, the quicker we can begin improving ourselves.
As an end to this text, I would like to share a quote
that really motivates me and raises my self-confidence. I hope it will do the
same for you. "In any given moment of decision, the best thing
that you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing"
- Theodore Roosevelt.Now go on, make yourself better!
My name is Victor, and I am the author of the
self-development blog Growth Evolution Development. I am an ordinary human
being that has devoted himself to inspire and help others to grow, evolve &
develop in all possible ways while doing the same myself. I strongly believe
that each one of us has the potential for growth, but not all of us know where
to begin. I also believe that together as a team we will make our dreams a reality...
Come and join me on this journey at http://www.gedground.com, and I will do all
my best to serve you!
By Victor S, Article Source:
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